Tag: caring

Worrying

Worry, it’s a draining burden, but is it necessary?

What could you do less of?

Its probably a subject matter that will be picked up on quite a bit i should imagine, purely because of the state of things in this big wide world, and because of the burdens we put upon our selves quite unnecessarily. Now I ain’t any psychologist, and you aren’t going to find a health hack here. Someone has asked the question, and I’m just giving my two penneth worth as they say.

Why do we worry? God knows, we worry about what others think when in all truthfulness they don’t give a rats ass about you, it’s something that has somehow worked its way into your psyche and it’s now programmed to pester you 24hrs a day. Just forget it they say, that’s easier said than done, it’s like a medieval soldier being sent into battle and being told, “Don’t worry about any armour, they just want to talk!” As soon as your defences are down, fight and flight appears on the scene, and that makes things a million times worse.

It’s strange that some of our biggest battles are with our own internal settings, when in our own personal little world there really is nothing to worry about. We worry about things that could happen, when they most probably will not, we worry about others, which is not a bad thing, but we neglect our own well being.

And here I am, fully loaded with all of the above spouting all this bilge out, why? Am I just replying to that prompt issued by WP? Or am I crying out for help? Probably neither to be honest, I’m just letting people know in advance that I’m probably one of life’s inherently natural worriers, and if I ever meet you I’m probably going to worry about your well being as well.

It’s probably why I’m so introverted, there’s a limit to just how much infectious burden you can bear, and to be honest I think my brain has a short circuit in that area.

It would be lovely to off load all that burden, and for once, stand without that emotional globe on my weary shoulders.

Take care, and have a wonderful day, i worry about you.

Someone’s wedding day

Write about a random act of kindness you’ve done for someone.

No one likes to blow smoke up their own asses and confess to these actions. I’m not going to start doing that here, today. Random acts of kindness aren’t usually discussed, because that’s seen as boastful. Most people seem to just keep these actions to themselves, building up the personal satisfaction levels in their own minds, and there is nothing wrong with feeling a bit of pride for your actions. It’s good, and should be encouraged for everyone to do, however some people are naturals, and some people just need to try a little bit harder.

I’m just going to discuss one act of whatever that both my wife and I were involved in, in the seaside town of Latchi in Western Cyprus.

We were out for dinner at a small restaurant. A couple sat at the table adjacent to us and we struck up a conversation, we had never before met in our lives. It transpired they had married that day, just the two of them, as they had no immediate family, or friends with them.

We were finished and were saying goodbye as they were about to choose a drink, we heard them talking about how expensive the wine was and that they’d stick with the water.

Drinks

We were paying our bill away from the diners when I asked the waitress to send a bottle of good wine to the newly weds table, but they were only to tell them it was paid for and not to disclose who had paid for it. I’m sure they would have known eventually.

As we were leaving, the wine was arriving at the table and from the distance that we were, I could see them looking around and best of all they were both smiling. I couldn’t see anyone celebrating such an event without being able to toast their momentous day.

Yes it gave us a warm feeling, and I sincerely hope the recipients felt the same way, knowing that not everyone out there is bad, and there is always someone looking out for you. Someone cares.

Have a joyful day, stay safe.



Our total love and devotion

If you could make your pet understand one thing, what would it be?

As I’m sure, anyone at all that pays any attention to what is written in these posts, will know we lost our best friend Alf, our beloved pet dog on 16th August last year. There’s probably a lot of you out there who are probably saying,“ For gods sake man just get on with it”.

Easier said than done I’m afraid. If you read the facts and figures, animal grief is just so real, especially in an animal loving country such as ours.

I’ve never really experienced it in such a manner before, but this time we’ve really struggled. I think I summed it up at its peak here: Is there a cure for a broken heart 💔 . There are a number of other posts about him but this one sums up the raw feelings when we lost him.

We’ve never been able to have children in our life, it’s complicated. Especially when you spend your life with the most wonderful woman who would have made the most fantastic mother, it really is heartbreaking to see her interactions with children and the love she shows them. Then in the quiet moments I really see how it affects her. All I can do is comfort her.

Alf – our little fellah

This is where Alf strolls in. He was to us, what was always out of reach, a kind of surrogate if you like. It was fate how we found him and he had the starring role in our lives for eleven beautiful years.

To answer the question: If I could make my pet understand one thing? It would be:

You were our love, our confidante our life. Our most precious companion. And we miss you so much.

Yes it’s more than one thing I know. But when a kindly loving soul enters your life and has such an effect on it, you just can’t label them with one singular credit, one word, It just can’t be done.

Life is a strange voyage. Sometimes when you can’t have something, you are blessed with the most perfect alternative. I believe we were blessed. His time came and he had to move on. I just hope some where, another couple who have maybe suffered similar issues as we did, are now experiencing some wonderful “Alfie” time. That little fellah truly had wings.

Love you for always lad.

Peace.

I Care

Tell us one thing you hope people say about you.

I’ve probably covered this in a number of earlier posts, however this one in particular probably sums it all up just fine. Why bother? I care that’s why.. I’m a pretty hard shelled character and it takes an awful lot to gain my confidence, but I do hope people go away from meeting me and say that I’m a caring soul.

Says it all

I have been hurt an awful lot in the past especially by those who were put on this planet to help me on my way but failed miserably. Through this all though I have kept and nurtured a caring attitude as I don’t wish for anyone to be alone with poisonous thoughts and attitudes. If I achieve nothing else in my life at least I can rest comfortably knowing I have helped along the way.

There is an old saying,” Helping one person might not change the whole world, but it could change the world for that one person”

Simple. Isn’t it. Stay humble.

You’ve got 7 seconds….apparently

What’s the first impression you want to give people?

Well, if you are trying to impress, apparently you only have 7 seconds to do it according to those wise old owls at LinkedIn:

Within seven seconds of meeting someone, a person will conclude if you are confident or weak, interested or aloof, friend or foe – based solely off your body language. Obviously, that’s going to directly affect your ability to get leadership buy-in, close a sale or just make a friend.

LinkedIn

I’d like to first off have someone think I’m friendly, confident and approachable however I’m the first to admit I’m not always successful. The thing is the other person you meet is probably using those 7 seconds to do the same to you, and it’s stalemate from then on. I meet an awful lot of over confident people, sometimes it can be a cover to hide shortfalls in their abilities, sometimes they are just damned frightened of the situation and feel out of their depth.

I think I’m good at sensing these issues and I hope I’m good at getting them to have confidence in me to help them on their way. It’s a big old world out there and I’ve tripped up and embarrassed my self on more occasions than I care to remember. if I can save someone who is starting off on their life journey from making the same mistakes I have, then everyone is on a winner.

I think the first impressions I’d like to therefore give are that I am approachable and helpful.

An everlasting love and appreciation

What’s your definition of romantic?

To me, being part of a relationship as well as being married for 32yrs+, that’s when romance takes on a different role than it did in the early days.

Back then it was chocolates, teddy bears with love hearts on them and roses.

It changes with time.

The wife still likes gifts, but chocolates weigh on the hips, the teddy bears have become handbags (she has a mahoosive collection) she hates roses, but loves other flowers.

Romance now takes a more caring attitude, we look after each other’s needs rather than wants. Time makes those changes.

The one outstanding sign of romance for me is that after all these years, you even get excited at seeing your partner even after only being away 12 hrs at work. You constantly look forward to seeing them and to me that shouts love, commitment and romance.

I’m so looking forward to seeing her when I get home later. I’m excited.

That’s romance.

Peace all.