Category: Random musings

Farm work

What’s your dream job?

To be honest I cannot say that there is any particular job that I have a dream of doing. When I was younger I went through all my options and opportunities and to be honest I think I’ve followed the best course of work activity throughout my career so far. That school careers officer knew his job.

It’s the old observation of whether you dream to do a job so much, that in reality, after you have done it for a while it then becomes a chore. I spent a lot of time in my early 30s doing my city and guilds exams in electronics, my choice, as it was a hobby and I wanted to learn more. Many people said to me at the time,“Why don’t you use that set of qualifications to branch out into that business?” But do you know what? I didn’t want to do that as I loved the hobby so much I didn’t want to fall out of love with it, I didn’t want it to become a day to day existence, something to tire of.

As I branch out into my latter years I’d love to work on a farm, I’d love to be a custodian of some land and have responsibilities for its upkeep and the animals and creatures that live there. A big woodland where I tend to nature, monitor and assist with its upkeep. Environmental work, that’s what I’d love to do now.

I could do this on a part time basis, as the local woodland trust actively encourages involvement in such projects in our area. The only issue is that my shifts at work kind of restrict me with taking part. Maybe this is a decision to be taken into consideration when I look at my retirement options within the next few years.

Have a glorious day.

Not a University degree

What makes a good leader?

Sorry if that title upsets a few but that’s exactly how it is in my view. I’m in a business where we actively take on graduates who have come from universities who instantly come into these roles where many years experience is normally the requirement, prior to proceeding in that role.

I’m not knocking the student, but just because you’ve been in study for a number of years and now have a degree in political history, this does not help you in an engineering rich environment. It’s wrong. A leader needs life experience, and I think it is unfair to place an individual with no such experience in a role that needs this expertise along with long gained trust. They need to wait a while, get comfortable and get a few years experience under their belts.

I guess this is my companies fault for pretty much setting these individuals up to fail, but to be honest my company is pretty good at doing this with anyone it employs.

Apparently, and depending on where you search there are a number of traits that make a good leader, here are just five that I believe to be the basic qualities required.

  • Calmness
  • Clarity
  • Objectivity
  • Empathy
  • Decisiveness

I’d also add to that, “Common sense” you can be the brightest button on the earth but have not a single ounce of common sense. I have this in my own family circle it’s not a thing that can be taught, it’s a life learning event, some people have quite a bit of it still to do. It will come with age and experience.

That said we will always assist individuals parachuted in to these roles, however it can be hard on the individual and sometimes tough for them personally. So let’s expand the above list now to seven by adding these two further traits and calling it a day.

  • Common sense
  • Experience

I’ve experienced this now in excess of thirty years within my role. In that time I have had many Managers but I can count the good leaders on two fingers of one hand.

Anyone can be a manager, absolutely anyone it’s just an excuse to throw extra work and responsibility at someone with little remuneration, but only a rare few can be a good leader.

Have a peaceful and pleasant day.

Addiction

If you could un-invent something, what would it be?

I’ve browsed around some of the replies to this prompt and I must say I’m quite surprised. Surprised to see so many people wishing that social media could be un-invented. Now I am with these people 100%, I agree it’s a breeding ground for hatred and vitriol, however as so many are already mentioning social media I feel I should suggest something else because to not do so would make this post quite repetitive and boring.

Well it will probably still be boring but here goes.

Addiction. If only there wasn’t such a thing. Again it’s one of those things that is good to have in certain scenarios but an absolute nightmare to have in others. Let’s talk about the nightmare scenarios.

I guess that somewhere in the top three addictions there would be Drugs, Alcohol and Gambling. In my job these are three of the top addictions that drive people to attempt to end their lives on the railway. I know this personally, I deal with the aftermath far too often and it is a truly tragic situation.

Can you imagine the freedom and excitement these people who are inflicted with such a disabling and horrible condition would feel, if this burden was lifted from their shoulders and it would never bother them again?

I once was heading down the wrong road with alcohol in my late teens. Two things stopped me going there. My job, as we are constantly liable to be drug and alcohol tested as we have a zero tolerance policy here, and my wife. I have always stated that she alone saved my life. She witnessed things that raised her awareness levels and stopped me going down the wrong road. I was fortunate. Others are not so.

So if we could only un-invent addiction. Wouldn’t that be a fantastic thing. Just imagine how many good souls would still be with us today.

Have a peaceful day.

It’s unconditional

Can you share a positive example of where you’ve felt loved?

It was the 14th February 2018. Happy Valentine’s Day. I was told I had a cancerous tumour.

I was numb. We went out the following day for a lovely walk and all we did was discuss the elephant in the room throughout that whole trip. Even looking at the photos of that day I can see the false smile on my face as well as the concern on my wife’s.

False smile, worry in her eyes, not a good day

I went into serious withdrawal from life, as I knew it. I suffered severe depression. I didn’t share my feelings with the one person who knew me best. I kept it all to myself and it was all too much, I broke down. It was my problem, I’ll deal with it. But I couldn’t. I needed help.

That one person, sat beside me, she cried with me and she comforted me. She cuddled me. She stayed with me and she didn’t let me go.

It was at that point I experienced absolute unconditional love. There was a warmth that went through me, it’s as if she had taken all my worries and concerns and put them away for me, I’ve always said she’s an angel and she has this amazing ability to take away my problems and make my whole life better.

And I didn’t even share my feelings with her. That’s so wrong. I felt so guilty.

Guess what, I share absolutely everything with her now, nothing is held back, the silly issues, the concerns and worries. And you know what, her arms encase me again, that love flows through me as it always does and has done. I feel nothing but love, and it is my life’s task to ensure she feels just the same.

We beat the big C, or should I say it’s at the back of our minds and doesn’t overwhelm us anymore. When we talk about it we use the name “Fred”. The “C” word is no longer used in our home. It’s banished. It’s a horrible word, and my lovely lady did this to make our life less stressful.

My Angel. My Wife. My life.

Peace.

It’s already done

Where can you reduce clutter in your life?

Well, the meaning as explained by those good folk at the Oxford English dictionary states:

Dictionary

Definitions from Oxford Languages · 

verb

  1. remove unnecessary items from (an untied  or overcrowded place).”there’s no better time to declutter your home”

And that’s about it in a nutshell. Now in life you have a number of factors to consider when you consider decluttering.

Poisonous individuals: what do they bring to your life? Probably nothing to make your life any easier or more comfortable, you don’t need these individuals around you, so get them out of your life as soon as you can.

Overpowering entities: These are the ones who control, draining the energy from you and making you feel worthless. Get some control back in your life and bin these people without a second thought for them. They care not about you, why care about them. They are in it for themselves. Get rid.

Hangers on: Probably contribute absolutely nothing to your well being and hold you back. The leeches of society draining you of every bit of surplus energy you have. They need to get control of their own lives, give them a helping hand and move them on.

These are three of the aspects of human behaviour that I believe I have successfully moved from my life. And to be honest, for me, getting rid of social media activities probably rid me of two of these issues pretty much instantly. However each to their own as they say and you do what you have to do. You just don’t need these three aspects of human behaviour in your life. The thing is are you ready to make those changes?

If you are searching for a more happy and peaceful existence, then you have to.

Stay kind, be peaceful.

Rinse and repeat..

What is your favorite animal?

Just like a record on repeat or just like a commercial radio station, or even like a moon orbiting a planet WP starts repeating its daily prompts, you could almost set a clock to it as it has such amazing regularity. This particular prompt was last listed on 23rd November 2024, not that long ago.

So unlike WP I will save the bother of re writing my answer, and just post links to the relevant blogs below. If you are busy and don’t have the time the simple answer is: Dogs are my domesticated favourite whilst Hedgehogs are my wild favourite. There, I’ve saved you some time and gotten myself some brownie points with you.

For anyone interested in hanging around here are some links to previous blog posts including that one for the same question in November last year.

The humble Hedgehog

My World

Is there a cure for a broken heart 💔

These are just three of many posts on the subject. The last one really sums up how I feel after the loss of a wonderful family member. The struggle goes on.

Peace

Just another reason to not go wandering

I’ve seen this news article and it just strengthens my reasoning to never visit Australia.

I have relations in Sydney who were over here about 6 months back. They are constantly trying to sell me the dream and trying to get the wife and I to visit. I’ve always been of the opinion that everything that lives there wants to kill you, both big and small and this article just broke the camels back as they say.

Article courtesy of Skynews

The attraction for me is less now, after spending over 24hrs in the air do I really want to face my biggest fear – Spiders. I’m not just afraid I’m totally petrified of them, we don’t have venomous ones here in the Uk, but all the same if you see a guy running down the road screaming its probably me as the wife deals with the issue…she really is the brave one.

Whilst speaking to Cousin Bob who is a builder on the outskirts of Sydney, he was casually trying to convince me to travel by saying that in all his time there he has rarely seen a large spider, however he said just watch for the little “red backed bastards” (pardon my language). Why? What will they do? I asked. “Ah they’ll probably kill you” he casually replied.

My mind was made up. Never going.

Happy day everyone 🕷️

This is it

In what ways do you communicate online?

This blog. That’s it really. Anyone who knows me knows that I am very anti – antisocial media. I don’t need it, never have needed it and apart from this blog site that’s the only thing that really lets me down. And to be honest once I’ve had enough of this I’m liable to drop it just like a hot potato.

I really don’t see the fascination of it all. It’s great for gaining information and “Facts” however half the facts are false and not to be believed. I have no wish to connect with people I went to school with, I couldn’t wait to get away from them, and as for seeing what someone just had for dinner…..just go and give your head a wobble. “Influencers” are just another bunch of hopeless dreamers who think they know what’s good for you when they don’t even know what’s good for themselves. Don’t get me started.

I do use YouTube, however in the main I find that educational, especially the channels I tend to view.

It’s not for me, and as you can gather I dislike it. Get out and see the world and enjoy it. Just don’t flounce about putting it on “Insta”. You are not the first person who’s been there and you are not the last. No one is really bothered to be honest.

Wp and YouTube my only vices…on antisocial media.

Peace

Natural vs artificial in techalcoholism

You’ve probably read of my dislike of social media and modern technology in some of the posts I place on here. I think this blog post sums it up perfectly. You don’t need all that social media and technology hands to us.

Technology creates and brings an artificial layer in our lives. This artificial layer acts as a protective wall between us and the brute forces of …

Natural vs artificial in techalcoholism

Mental photographs

Think back on your most memorable road trip.

My wife and I have always had a great understanding of what we class as memorable moments. We don’t even have to tell each other it’s memorable, we usually say to each other, “I’ve taken a picture”.

This isn’t a physical picture where you’ve lined up a camera for a snap, this is a mental picture, one of those special moments you store in your mind and in your life forever.

Akamas peninsula- Cyprus

One particular moment comes to mind one fine September day many years ago on the island of Cyprus. We were staying at a beachside hotel in the area of Chlorakas a few miles to the west of Paphos. We had gotten through a particularly bad period of our life and were away on holiday, just resting. This day we just grabbed a couple of chairs, a couple of drinks and then walked up on to a small hill to watch a glorious Cypriot sunset, and believe me there are not many better sights to view in your life. Here we sat alone, holding hands watching this glorious sight until the light faded and the dusk took hold. We continued just talking until it was time to make our way back for dinner. It is probably the most beautiful and peaceful moment I can ever remember, where for a fleeting moment we were the only two people on this wonderful planet enjoying a beautiful moment in time.

Mental pictures, that is what we collect, and we often both recollect these wonderful moments in our lives.

If you have wonderful memories, you need very little else in life, memories make you rich beyond your wildest dreams.

Have a wonderful day people.