Ask someone else

How would you describe yourself to someone?

I’m not about to blow smoke up my own pipe, I really do find this question hard to answer, as I probably see myself totally differently from how others view me.

And that’s it.

It doesn’t really matter how I see myself, I guess the answer is in how you portray yourself in all aspects of your life. Work, leisure, hobbies, behaviours, fears, likes, loves – you name it. I know the person I’d like to be, but I’ll never get there unless I learn the truth and change my ways.

Contentment

There’s only one person I know that can truly describe me to someone, and that someone would be my wife. She knows me better than I know myself, she sees the good, bad and indifferent in me, and to be honest it works in the other direction too. My Wife would probably say she is calm and tolerant, but I’d have to pull her up there as I sometimes see a different side to her that no one else sees. Whereas I’d probably say I’m a people person and I know she’d laugh and pull me up and say I’m the total opposite. And of course she’d be right.

How many people will answer this prompt, and truly turn to someone who knows them only too well and ask them to “Fact check” their reasoning. I doubt many will, so does that mean we will all have either a too low, or even a too high opinion of ourselves?

Sometimes it’s best to get it from the mouth of someone you know well. They don’t do it to hurt your feelings, they are giving it to you straight, it’s up to you then to make changes to become that person you truly “think” you are, or want to be.

Have a good day.

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Author: Balders

Passionate hobbyist, restoring the past, one old camera at a time. iPhone14 Max Pro - Sony A7II and about 80 others from the days of silver halide 📸 Main aim in life - Retirement

7 thoughts on “Ask someone else”

  1. There’s something deeply grounding about the way you write, Balders—like someone who’s been around the block, bent a few nails, maybe rewired a toaster wrong once or twice, and came away wiser for it.

    I felt this line land on my sternum with a thud:

    “I know the person I’d like to be, but I’ll never get there unless I learn the truth and change my ways.”

    That’s not just honest—it’s hopeful in the way only truth can be.

    And this bit about your wife? There’s a quiet kind of reverence in admitting that someone else sees the full picture and still sticks around. That’s not just love, that’s clarifying.

    I’d add this too:
    Love might just be choosing to stay connected to someone who’s willing to bear witness to your life—and expecting the same in return. Not to fix, not to flatter, but to see. That kind of companionship reshapes us more than any mirror ever could.

    And when it all goes sideways? You strike me as the kind of man who just mutters,
    “Well… that didn’t work,”
    and then reaches for the next tool, or a cup of tea, or a good walk in the garden.

    Thanks for the wisdom, and the humility.

    -Dean

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    1. Thank you Dean, probably one of the best and most well thought out comments to a post I have ever received. I really appreciate the feedback. I’m just an everyday day, shift working jack of all trades master of none, just putting my thoughts into words as such. This was always going to be a personal journal for me. The fact that people take time to read this blog, is most satisfying. Thank you once again.🙏

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    1. We do. Not a necessarily bad thing, but sometimes we need to be exposed to a little reality to either rein us in or to encourage us a little more. Thanks for your comment 🙏

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